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• Your wedding can be religious or non-religious, or simply spiritual in your own way

• Your wedding will be completely written out just for you

• You can write your own vows, if you wish, and include friends and family

• Your wedding ceremony will reflect your feelings and beliefs

• No counseling is required

• Everything will be done your way - but you don't have to be in charge

Some thoughts on a personalized wedding ceremony

Respect and tradition are important in a wedding, but so is a feeling of vitality and a sense that the wedding ceremony reflects who you really are.  You may want a spiritual wedding ceremony, or a wedding that isn't religious at all, or you may want a wedding ceremony that honors the traditions of your family, yet isn't stuffy and has more of a feeling of celebration to it.  Each couple is completely different and many couples want a more personalized wedding ceremony that is written and coordinated according to their wishes.  In addition, many couples would like some help putting it all together and making it run smoothly.

In the past

In the past, a bride and groom might live in the same village and as a result, they, their families, and their minister would all belong to the same church.  In many ways, planning a wedding ceremony in those days was very easy because there was no question about who would be in the wedding, what words would be spoken, and how all the elements would fit together.  In those days, a wedding would always be exactly the same, no matter who was getting married and what their circumstances were.  

But in today's world, a bride and groom's circumstances are often very different.  A couple may come from diverse backgrounds and the couple may even be very different from their own parents.  Many couples want a wedding that is meaningful, special, and reflects who they are and what they would like to say.  Yet often they would like their wedding ceremony to make their loved ones very happy, as well.  How does one achieve this goal?

Your wedding

Depending on your circumstances and wishes, planning your wedding ceremony may be more involved than planning a wedding in the past. 

You may looking to combine:

• Tradition

• Personalization

• Possibly widely varying backgrounds

In addition, you might have the desire to create a wedding ceremony that shows who you are as a couple, including:

• Your spirituality, in whatever manner you feel it (reverent, religious, not religious at all, spiritual in your own special way...each couple has their own unique needs)

• Your personal style (warm, poetic, family-oriented, loving, trusting, fun-loving, a sense of formality, ceremony, tradition, celebration, laughter...any combination of the above or something very different)

Family

Creating and coordinating a wedding ceremony that reflects your true feelings and wishes, yet respects the background and traditions of your families, may take an officiant with a lot of sensitivity and tact.

• Most couples who come to me say that they want to be just as happy with their wedding ceremony as their family, friends, and loved ones are

• Most couples really want their wedding rehearsal, the wedding ceremony, and the days leading up to their big weekend be run in a manner that respects everyone's wishes (but ultimately, they want the bride and groom's wishes to be respected as paramount)

Your wishes will always be respected. 

• On your wedding weekend, you can always direct all questions from your Guests and relatives to me, so you don't have to handle everything

• You can trust that all the elements of your wedding ceremony will be handled without your having to know everything and control the whole day

In other words, you don't have to be "Johnny-on-the-spot" and field every question yourself.  It's nice having someone you know and trust in your corner.  

Feel free to call or email me with your unique circumstances - or, we'll just talk about them when we meet.  I will always respect your wishes and feelings, and together, we can create a wedding ceremony that is personal, special, and uniquely yours.

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(612) 986-5528

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