Your Minnesota Wedding Ceremony
Respect and tradition are important in a wedding, but so is a feeling of vitality and a sense that the wedding ceremony reflects who you really are. You may want a spiritual wedding ceremony, or a wedding that isn’t religious at all, or you may want a wedding ceremony that honors the traditions of your family, yet isn’t stuffy and has more of a feeling of celebration to it.
≈When you plan your wedding, you have hundreds of choices and a limited amount of time. With the right help, planning your wedding can be a joy. I am at your service throughout the entire process, from the initial planning stages to the wedding itself.
Each couple is completely different, and many want a personalized wedding ceremony that is written and coordinated according to their wishes. In addition, many couples would like some help putting it all together and making it run smoothly.
• A
flexible, experienced minister with the expertise to
plan your unique, personalized wedding ceremony, no matter what your
site or what kind of wedding you are planning.
• Your
wedding can be religious or
nonreligious, or simply spiritual in your own way
• Your wedding will be
completely
written
out just for you, reflecting your feelings and beliefs and
incorporating your personal style
• You can write your
own vows, if
you
wish, and include friends and family
Additional
considerations:
out of state wedding
• You may have selected a nontraditional
wedding site in the Minneapolis-St. Paul area, a spot that poses unique
challenges.
• You
want a more meaningful wedding
ceremony than a Minnesota Justice of the Peace or Judge can
provide--one that is tailored and customized to your unique wishes,
beliefs, and values.
• You may be looking to blend the traditions of varying backgrounds or religions with your personal style and your spirituality, in whatever manner you feel fit. For instance, I have performed many Catholic-Lutheran weddings (where one party was Catholic, the other Lutheran, and they wished to honor both traditions), Christian-Jewish weddings (including Catholic-Jewish). Couples usually wish to find those elements that are the same in both faiths, and then that's the part we emphasize, but then include also traditions from each faith, and explain what they mean, and the mix can work really well. Additionally, I have written and performed many wedding ceremonies for couples where one party was raised with a religious background, but the other party is spiritual, but not necessarily religious. Whatevever your background, we will make sure that your wedding reflects and honors your beliefs.
You can feel completely
confident and relaxed, knowing that I will always respect your wishes,
and that your thoughts and ideas are always at the forefront of my
plans.
I
am always available for guidance, information, and support.
At Our Initial Meeting
When we meet, we will review all elements of the
wedding ceremony you
envision: vows, rings, readings, music, everything--including your
family considerations, location characteristics, recommendations for
top-notch wedding vendors, and everything else involved in planning
your unique wedding. We will discuss your feelings and
beliefs, and any unique circumstances. I will always respect
your wishes and feelings, and together, we will customize your ceremony.
Once you’ve reserved my services, I will get right to work on your
ceremony scripting, writing up everything that we worked on at our
meeting.
Customized
ceremony
scripting
Within 7 to 14 days, you will receive the entire customized wedding
ceremony scripting for your review. Your script will be a clear,
well-organized document, fully detailed and complete. This writing out
of the scripting for your review is especially important and unique to
my services. I undertake this effort so that you will always know
exactly what to expect. With this complete scripting in hand, you will
feel secure and confident knowing that your wedding ceremony is
personalized and customized to reflect your beliefs, values, and wishes.
Revisions
Once you receive your scripting, you can go through it at your leisure
to make sure that everything is exactly how you want it. We will work
together in the coming months to make it absolutely perfect. If there
are changes, just let me know and
Your Marriage License
Your Minnesota marriage license administration will be taken care of by
me so you can concentrate on more important things, like enjoying your
big weekend.
Your Wedding Rehearsal
By this
point, you’ll have the complete and final scripting, with any
and all changes
you requested. We will rehearse the service at the
location of your choice, and you will have the security of knowing that
your wedding party, family, and everyone else is completely comfortable
and confident.
Your Wedding Day
After the rehearsal, you will be completely prepared and ready
for your wedding. You won’t have to be in charge of anything—if anyone asks you for anything, from the florist to the caterer to a member of your family or your wedding party, you can answer with confidence, “Talk to Pastor Tomkin.” You can be completely in the moment, enjoying your big day.
